No One is Truly Busy – It’s a Matter of Preference- Part-1

We live in an age where “I’m busy” has become one of the most common phrases. Whether it’s declining an invitation, postponing a task, or skipping self-care, “being busy” is the universal excuse. But if we look closer, is it really about being busy—or is it about what we choose to give preference to?

The truth is simple: no one is truly busy—it’s all a matter of preference.

The Myth of Busyness

Time is the most democratic resource we all have—24 hours, no more, no less. And yet, people spend those hours very differently. Some invest in their careers, some in relationships, some in personal growth, and others in distractions.

When someone says, “I didn’t have time”, what they usually mean is, “It wasn’t my priority.” A shift in words changes everything, because it places the responsibility back on us. Instead of blaming “lack of time,” we acknowledge the role of preference in shaping our choices.

Preferences Shape Priorities

  • If health is valued, a person will carve out time to exercise, no matter how packed the day is.
  • If relationships are valued, phone calls, visits, or quality time with loved ones will always find space in the schedule.
  • If learning is valued, one will dedicate time to books, courses, or practice.

We can always find time for what matters most to us—because preference decides priority, and priority decides action.

A Call for Honest Living

The next time we find ourselves saying “I was too busy”, let’s pause and reflect: Was I truly busy, or did I simply give preference to something else? Owning this truth brings clarity and honesty into our lives. It also helps others see us as reliable and genuine.

Time doesn’t need to be “managed”—it needs to be aligned with what truly matters. Once we understand this, our daily choices start reflecting our deepest values.

Conclusion

Life is not about running out of time—it’s about choosing how we use it. When we stop hiding behind “busyness” and start accepting the role of preference, we take charge of our time, our priorities, and ultimately, our life.

"Indeed, no one is busy. It’s a matter of preference." DJP

Written by
Dr. Jayaram Paul Justus (DJP)                            PGT English & Wellness Teacher                              Former Academic Coordinator (Sr. Secondary)      School Training Nodal Coordinator (STNC)            Social Media & Website Committee Head     

Author’s Note

This thought came to me while reflecting on how often we excuse ourselves by saying, “I’m busy.” In reality, it is not about the lack of time but about the choices we make. I penned this piece as a gentle reminder—to myself and to anyone reading—that life becomes more meaningful when we align our time with our values. May this serve as a nudge to prioritize what truly matters and live with more honesty, clarity, and purpose.

— DJP

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